#209 Your Way vs. Their Way
What do we do when the way everyone else leads doesn’t match how our brain works?
Do we keep trying to force ourselves into their mold, or do we find our own way?
Sometimes to “do it right” you actually have to do it ‘wrong’. Especially when doing it right just means “how closely do you sound to the models we’ve been taught?”
In This Episode:
Why my client’s “flaws” made her clients feel comfortable and seen (while “perfect” technique just left her disconnected)
Discerning between feedback that helps you grow and feedback that’s just mainstream or neurotypical expectations
How I stopped trying to correct my neurodivergent quirks and started getting high demand for my services
Why so many quiet leaders are actually neurodivergent (and what that means)
Connect With Adria:
What happens when doing it right means “how closely do you sound to the models we’ve been taught?” That’s when it’s time to do it wrong.
We have a tendency to underestimate quiet leaders. Or we assume anyone successful ISN’T a quiet leader. But when we recognize that there’s strength in stillness, that there’s a grounded impact inherent in slow…we restore dignity to quiet leadership. I’m joined in this conversation by my friend Ashley Looker — Empowerment Coach for ambitious over-achieving humans with 11,000+ followers on IG (her voice is definitely getting heard, and she’s no beginner). Listen in to this exploration between Ashley and me on what it means to be an established business owner using your voice AND a quiet leader.
When we choose to take our work deeper and bring others into it…How do we create offerings that forward our message and mission, that are thought leadership, personified? How do we share in ways that help people feel our offering and that light our fire and keep it burning? And when what we’re creating is so potent and felt, how do we convey it CLEARLY? I explore all these questions in a really rich, embodied conversation with my friend Ahava Shira.
The story of our lineage holds clues for how we want to show up. Ancestral work is a way to understand our own voices and can be healing, helping us show up as fuller, more rooted versions of ourselves. It creates a pathway back to our own power, to feel safe to be ourselves in ways we haven’t before, to take up more space and to speak quietly but clearly.
To be leaders and create ripple effects, our work needs to live out in the world. But sharing doesn’t just “happen” for quiet folks who may rarely feel ANY nudges to share publicly. Episode 205 of Quiet Messenger is dedicated to helping you step out of your creative cave, without disconnecting from your creativity (or yourself).
When I was finally ready to create again, exploring what my work artistically and creatively wanted to become turned into a many-month process. We often get advice but wonder how to apply it, especially as quiet leaders that don’t see that many leaders out there like us. Episode 204 of Quiet Messenger is packed with exactly what I did – thought processes, exercises, and all!
If we don’t want to do business + leadership the way it’s always been done, we can’t keep using the same tools. Problem is, traditional planning aims for what you already know. But what if we want to end up somewhere different…and we don’t yet know what that looks like? Here’s what happened when I let following the sparks of inspiration be my method of “planning.”
Before I went on sabbatical, I was like a rootbound plant that had outgrown its pot. But before I could rekindle my work and feel creative flow again, I needed to expand my root system. Because stability allows you breathing space to be creative.
Do you ever feel resistance to sharing and super OVER the way things are done? Uninspired and out of alignment with your work? Funky that your business hasn’t caught up to your values? In the past decade, I’ve learned this is usually a cue that I’ve outgrown my current business. This is the story of how I rekindled my work – and how you can too.